SINGLE LADY PROBLEMS

So have you ever wondered how life would be like if you were married or at least have a boyfie?Do not worry you are normal. Soooo normal that its not fancy.
I am moderately classy and mature and I can tell you for a fact I have many chances of having that special person but I don't, guess I'm just too comfortable loving myself and selfish to sacrifice for another.
I have discovered that being single is a lot wiser than being wrong crazy relationships.











Regardless to say I still experience crazy issues as a single lady.So let's start with this forsaken problems.


1.Worry
We are worried that either we are not good enough,maybe our laugh is too loud or maybe we don't rock that tight body-con well or is it my dry jokes that repel people especially those I have an eye on?????
All these are questions single ladies worry about.

BUT God says do not worry about tomorrow if the birds of the air still are provided for, imagine the much He can give you His daughter.
Worry is an enemy as it is the sister to the biological clock that never stops ticking yet its not tangible.

2.The Third Wheel
By now you know what I mean, you see that friend who is always the third person in all dates that just happened to be there in between the adorable yet story less couple...yeah that one.
She is called The Third Wheel.
I can attest i have been a third wheel a lot. Come to think of it, tonight i will be a third wheel at dinner.

BUT I love it at times cause i get to learn relationships and hopefully wont be helpless when that time comes.It is wise to walk with people of the same directive to learn, unlearn and relearn.



3.One of the Boys.
I'm a boys person. Literally I hang out with guys.Hold up the fuss, i am not saying it is bad but the problem is when they view as the guy that they cant ever change there stingy perceptive to see the feminine side.In fact it is worse when you are even introduced as a guy; 
Conversation
(I and X walking and meeting Z his friend and the intro is like this;
Z: hey 
I and X: hey
X: By the way meet my pal..He......she is a good friend.
.............(intro ends)
Question to ponder; What are the probability that Z would walk up and ask me out?
This becomes hard as 'boys' can't date.
You brother-zoned for real.

4.Dr.Love
All single people are great advisers but they are still single, I am ONE.
It becomes a problem when the advised says a comment like this "you are so good with this things, I'm sure your boyfriend is one lucky guy" then all the happiness of singleness disappears.
Then they continue to add "...but why are you single though??" Then the silence creeps in.

My new answer for this is "I'm happy the place I'm at", this is genuine.I AM HAPPY BEING ALONE at the moment.
When you understand the season that you are at then comments and the clock wont affect as God is Order and as His babies we should learn to accept and be content.

5.New, new relationships
Is it only me who thinks that it is when you single that most people are actually entering the box of a guy????  Its pressure you know.
I love new relationships but the lovey dovey is just too much for the contented alone me.
It makes me realize that indeed I am missing out on something.

Needless to say, I love all the new relationships and I celebrate them.
Also important to note that the initial stages are sweet so enjoy it.

Being single simply means you have less to handle and more time for your purpose and dreams.

So cool off baby girls.

6.The When Will You Bring Him Home parent.
After you old enough then folks don't want to stay with the mature you in their house.So the questions and comment pop up.
They sound like this.
Do you think you can make a good wife?
Now that you finished school and you working what are your next plans?
I think I need a grandchild to remove my slippers under the sofa.
You should be more feminine that's what guys want, they don't a fellow man in the house?
Is there anyone we should start preparing to cook for? my mum calls it Othoni.

In fact its worse when your folks allows you to stay out late so that you can have ample time to meet that special one.

7.Nagging Siblings
In a reunion of cousins sits a loner.All the cousins are happily full, full of other family responsibilities which if some backfire, like the run-away house manager, the single one is the second nanny till another is found.
Ooooo I have suffered.....
But i love kids so i can stay with them till the end of time but really...

All these are just but a few of the common problems.Do not be too analytical, not all are facts.

BOTTOMLINE, I love being single, I have learnt to be contented and to just love myself in all ways.
If you lonely date yourself.
Dating yourself sounds crazy but it is AWESOME....

This is a message to all those single ladies at every stage; single and satisfied; single and hopeless; single and searching; single and hard to get; single and pursuing God.

We all in the same road but with different means of transport.So figure out your means, chill out, relax and enjoy the ride.

Love you guys.

💗💕💔💓💘💙💚💛💜💝

Imelda